Polinglish: Our Bilingual Journey Thus Far

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My son is about to turn 3, so for about half of his life he has been talking. During this time, I have learned why raising your child to be bilingual is commonly referred to as a journey. Like a journey (whether physical, mental, spiritual, etc.), teaching my son Polish has been filled with highs and lows, disappointments and achievements. Yet I am truly impressed, proud, and in awe of my son’s bilingual development.

My son switches between languages, a process called code switching, without hesitation and has associated each language with certain people. He will tell me about how the słońce świeci, only to repeat to my husband that the sun is shining. My son also started to associate language with people, and knows to speak Polish to me, my parents, and family members, and English to his dad, day care mates, children he meets at the playground, people we encounter at the store, etc.

When at a loss for vocabulary (in either language), my son will mix languages to get his point across. According to the American Speak Language Hearing Association, “From time to time, children may mix grammar rules, or they might use words from both languages in the same sentence. This is a normal part of bilingual language development.”

My son does it when he is uncertain of a word for a specific object or action in a particular language but knows it in the other language. Hence, when telling me how he climbed on the couch and fell and hurt his knee, he will say “climbed” in English (as he either doesn’t know the word, forgot it, or has difficulty pronouncing it in Polish) and the rest of the sentence in Polish.

Then there are the times when my son will go from speaking only Polish to me, to only responding in English. I get really discouraged during such days, but I know that during such times I have to put on an even bigger smile and continue speaking more Polish to him.

When my son does respond to me in English or using a combination of both Polish and English, I use the following strategies, as suggested by Polish linguist Elżbieta Ławczys, to encourage my son to speak Polish:

  • Repeat/paraphrase in Polish what was said. Hence, when he tells me he tripped on his toy and hurt his knee, I will respond along the lines of, “Oh no! You tripped on your train and hurt your knee? Let me kiss it and make it feel better. You need to clean up all of yours toys so they are out of the way. Lets go put them away together” in Polish.
  • Ask questions. When my son tells me that he would like a juice, I ask him, “You want a juice? Would you like apple juice or orange juice? Apple/orange juice is really good. Would you like something to eat as well?”
  • Remind child to use the appropriate language. I don’t do this too often, but I do kindly remind him that mama speaks Polish and ask him if he can tell me in Polish what he wants to say. If he resists, I don’t push and just revert to the two steps above. I do also remind him that other people (like the lady at church who picked up his toy) speak English so that he has to say thank you instead of dziękuję.

I also use the above approach when my son says something in Polish incorrectly. I don’t interrupt, correct, or laugh at him. Instead, I repeat what he said either by paraphrasing or asking a question.

I have noticed that my son is more prone to speak English when he is very tired. I think that the combination of being tired and wanting to express himself as quickly and effortlessly as possible makes him choose the language with which he has the most exposure. This doesn’t surprise me at all, as I personally revert to English when writing, thinking, counting, etc. because it is easier and faster for me. However, I am trying to break that habit and have made it a conscious effort to write all the things I would normally write in English (shopping/to do lists, recipes, etc.) in Polish.

Aside from learning to be more patient and not grow discouraged, an equally important lesson I have learned while on this bilingual journey has to do with perspective. When my son does respond only in English, as discouraging as it may be, I have to remind myself that this is not a setback or disappointment but a normal part of a child’s bilingual development and a learning opportunity. Those moments, along with the progress that my son makes, are truly fascinating to witness, and leave me in even greater awe and fill me with pride every time he makes strides in his Polish language acquisition.

Putting Names to Faces

Photo Book 2By the time I moved permanently with my parents to the United States when I was six years old, the names and faces of my closest relatives, along with shared memories, were fixed in my brain. As an immigrant, it was, and continues to be, difficult being away from my family, especially my cousins. However, summers spent in Poland refreshed my memories of my loved ones, and continued to nurture the bond that never ceased even while miles apart.

One of the hardest parts about starting my family was the fact that my child will not get to know my wonderful and loving family in Poland as well as I do. We were extremely fortunate to travel to Poland this past summer, which allowed my husband and son to meet my family. My son took to his Polish family extremely quickly, and kept asking for them long after we returned home. Luckily, technology has been a blessing and allowed us to talk to my family in Poland in real time and help my son associate names with faces. I recently came across a great product to help my son remember his family in Poland: mini board books by Pinhole Press.

The mini books are personalized board books designed to help children learn family names and/or first words. I created a book for my son for Easter.  I called it, “Moja Polska Rodzina” (My Polish Family), and it features photos of his immediate family from Poland.  He loved it, as did my parents and family friends with whom we celebrated the holiday. My son even took it to daycare the next day. It warms my heart to hear him reading it, getting excited over the faces he recognizes.

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Creating the board book is easy. It took me 10 minutes to create and order once I picked out the photos I wanted to use. To create the book, upload photos from your computer, Facebook, or Instagram to the Pinhole Press website, and then drag and drop your photos into the book. You can customize the text on the page next to the photo page. You can choose from 18 font colors and three font sizes (small, medium, and large). You cannot change the font type. Each text page is a different color. Although you cannot change the color of the pages, you can rearrange the order of the pages. Each book is coil bound and contains your choice of durable glossy/coated or matte pages.

I absolutely love this book. The only problem we encountered was the coil binding coming loose from the pages. That was easily fixed by crimping the end of the coil more. Other than that, the only drawback is the price: $34.99. However, if you are willing to splurge, the book is totally worth it!

Disclosure: I received a free mini book from Pinhole Press for the purpose of my review. I only paid for the shipping. All opinions expressed here are my own.

Healthy Baby Home Party Signups!

Seventh Generation Party KitIt always boggles my mind when I read the list of all the toxic ingredients found in household and personal care products, especially ones for babies/children. When I became pregnant, I wanted to provide my child with the safest products available—from personal care products to household cleaning and laundry products. I began researching products and ingredients, and educating myself about toxins found in the environment and consumer products. I have always been a supporter of Seventh Generation for not only their products but their advocacy to fight toxins in products. Although I am not a fan of some Seventh Generation products (you can read my reviews here and here), I think their products are generally the better of the environmentally friendly options available in mass retailers.

Through their Healthy Baby Home Parties, Seventh Generation helps educate friends and family on how to create a healthy environment for their children and reduce toxins in the household. I hosted my first Healthy Baby Home Party in 2014, shortly after my son was born. I received a kit filled with product samples (from Seventh Generation and its partners) and informational flyers to pass out to other moms.  It was a great opportunity to try family- and environmentally-friendly products and learn ways to reduce toxins in our home.

Seventh Generation is now looking for hosts for this year’s Healthy Baby Home Party.

WHAT IS A HEALTHY BABY HOME PARTY?

A Healthy Baby Home Party is an opportunity for moms focused on creating a healthy environment for their children to get together with friends and share helpful information about parenting and the environment, as well as make an impact through daily product choices and advocacy.

Healthy Baby Home Party kits are provided to selected hosts and are filled with educational info about our environment, as well as samples and coupons from Seventh Generation and other favorite family-friendly brands.

Seventh Generation’s Healthy Baby Home Parties were developed with input from Healthy Child Healthy World, a non-profit program committed to providing parents and caregivers information about our children’s exposures to potentially hazardous environmental chemicals and pollutants so families can lead healthier lives.

WHERE DO I SIGN UP?

  • Sign up at generationgood.net to join the Generation Good community, or log in if already a member.
  • Accept the Healthy Baby Home Party Application offer on your Generation Good dashboard and complete the application.
  • Applicants will be notified by end of March if they have been selected to host a party, via an email to the email address assigned to their Generation Good member profile.
  • All selected applicants will then need to confirm their participation by accepting the Healthy Baby Home Party Mission in Generation Good and confirming their shipping address.
  • Hosting spots are open to US residents only at this time. Canadian parties are planned for later in 2016!
  • Full terms and conditions are available within Generation Good in the “Healthy Baby Home Party Application” offer.

 

*I am a member of Seventh Generation’s Generation Good community. Through membership in the program, I occasionally receive Seventh Generation and partner products for free for the purpose of my review. I received content and images for this post. Opinions are 100% my own.

Cooking Up Language: Learning Vocabulary in the Kitchen

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I’m constantly looking for ways to incorporate vocabulary building into everyday tasks.

My toddler is very curious as to what my husband and I are doing, and loves pulling up a chair next to the kitchen counter or sink to “help.”

Allowing your child to help you cook is an excellent way to teach/review vocabulary and concepts in the target language, as well as involve him in the cooking and cleanup process.

Here are 3 reasons why you should involve your kids in the kitchen:

  1. Builds vocabulary. My son gets really excited when he gets to add ingredients to a bowl or stir them with the wooden spoon. As he adds ingredients to the bowl, I say the word for the ingredient and ask him to repeat it. I also include vocabulary for various food textures. Similarly, I state verbs as we transition from mixing and stirring to pouring and cooking. The funnier the voice I use to say the word, the greater the chance of my son repeating the word. During our time in the kitchen, my son is learning words for food, utensils, and actions associated with cooking and cleanup.
  2. Allows your child to use his senses. Cooking exposes kids to a variety of foods that they can taste, smell, and touch. My son is usually unwilling to try new foods, but enjoys smelling and squishing food in various states. For me, cooking together gives me another opportunity to offer/present new foods for my son to (hopefully) try.
  3. Provides hands-on learning. Kids acquire and retain knowledge through play, and allowing them to be a part of the cooking process provides them with hands-on learning.

Be sure to adapt the cooking to your child’s age and level of interest. Here is a handy chart of how to include kids in the kitchen based on age. If you have a toddler like I do, this is not the time to make fancy meals. Start small—bake muffins or assemble homemade pizza. My 2-year-old son loves dumping ingredients into a bowl and mixing them together, as well as adding toppings to our make-ahead breakfast burritos.

Most importantly, allow your child (and yourself) to have fun and make a mess!*

*Extra kitchen towels highly suggested. 🙂

Daddy Doesn’t Speak Polish: Tips for Monolingual Parents

Tips for monolingual parents

It is often assumed that raising your child to be bilingual is the responsibility of the parent whose native language is being taught. Although majority of the work does fall on the bilingual parent, the role of the monolingual parent cannot be overlooked. Just like with any undertaking, raising your child to be bilingual is a team effort.

My husband’s Polish is limited to what he has learned since our son was born. However, he takes steps to be an active part of my son’s Polish acquisition, all while being patient and understanding, and having a positive attitude.

Here are four ways monolingual parents can be proactive in their child’s language acquisition:

  1. Try to learn the language. My husband has made an effort to learn more Polish words. Whether it is through daily “Polish Word of the Day” emails or attempting to read Polish language flashcards with my son, his actions show me and my son that he cares and is serious about us being a bilingual family. Most importantly, he uses the few Polish words that he knows when speaking to our son. Whether he is asking for a buzi (kiss) each morning before leaving to work, or saying prosze (here you go) when handing our son his food, he is helping reinforce already-learned vocabulary and make it a natural part of our family life. Husband tip: Learn to ask, “what is this?” It gets your child thinking and talking and is a great cover up for when you don’t know the word for a specific object. And if that doesn’t play out well, know how to ask “where is mama?”
  2. Use language materials with your child. My husband will watch Polish children’s programming and play children’s Polish language learning apps with our son. He will also play Polish music in the background as my son plays. He does this both when I am and am not present. This increase my son’s exposure to Polish (especially when I am not around), and makes the presence of the Polish language once again a normal part of our family life.
  3. Encourage bilingualism. Encourage your child to use the language, even if they revert to the majority language. As they get older, some children may refuse to speak the minority language. Encouragement from the monolingual parent can sometimes be a greater motivator for the child than from the bilingual parent (who can be seen as expecting the child to be bilingual). Become their student and let them teach you new words/phrases; young children especially like playing the role of a teacher. Make bilingualism a source of pride. Tell them how cool and special they are for knowing how to speak not one but two (or three, etc.) languages. Praise their efforts and accomplishments. My son beams when he can repeat a newly-learned word. Let your child hear you tell other adults how proud you are to raise him bilingual. Also, make your children aware of the benefits of being bilingual.
  4. Support your bilingual spouse. Raising your kids to be bilingual is a feat, especially when your child has very limited exposure to the language outside of your bilingual spouse. Your bilingual spouse may feel frustrated, inadequate, or like a failure at times. Strongly encourage your spouse to not give up.

“Free & Clear” Laundry Detergent not in the Clear: Review of Seventh Generation Laundry Detergent

I was asked to sample and review Seventh Generation Free & Clear Laundry Detergent as part of Seventh Generation’s Generation Good community of which I am a member.

I received 3 sample-sized packets of the laundry detergent and decided to test them out on three different laundry loads: toddler clothes, my and my husband’s clothes, and my husband’s sweat- and dirt-stained and sun-drenched work clothes.

In all three instances the detergent did its job. Food stains on my toddler’s clothes weren’t removed any better or worse than other detergents that I have tried. The sweat, dirt, and sun-drenched smell did not come out from my husband’s clothes, but I honestly was not expecting it to come out given the state of the clothes. Overall, I was satisfied with how clean the clothes came out.

Seventh Generation markets their Free & Clear detergent as one for sensitive skin: “Natural Laundry Detergent that’s tough on stains, but gentle to your world. With no dyes, optical brighteners or synthetic fragrances, our natural laundry detergent gives you great results – even in cold water.”

Although no one in our household suffers from very sensitive skin, I personally prefer things without added scents since fragrance usually means added chemicals, especially when it comes to baby products.

Although I do appreciate that the laundry detergent is free of dyes and synthetic fragrances, I do take issue with some of the synthetic ingredients in the detergent (bolded by me):

Ingredients: water, laureth-6 (plant-derived cleaning agent), sodium lauryl sulfate (plant-derived cleaning agent), sodium citrate (plant-derived water softener), glycerin (plant-derived enzyme stabilizer), sodium chloride (mineral-based viscosity modifier), oleic acid (plant-derived anti-foaming agent), sodium hydroxide (mineral-based pH adjuster), calcium chloride (mineral-based enzyme stabilizer), citric acid (plant-derived pH adjuster), protease, amylase, and mannanase (plant-derived enzyme blend soil removers), and benzisothiazolinone and methylisothiazolinone (synthetic preservatives).

The detergent contains sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS), benzisothiazolinone, and methylisothiazolinone, which, in addition to some other ingredients, resulted in the detergent earning a grade of “D” from the Environmental Working Group (EWG). Sodium lauryl sulfate, benzisothiazolinone, and methylisothiazolinone are of concern when it comes to aquatic toxicity, skin irritation, allergies, and damage, as well as organ and immune system toxicity.

I do think this detergent is better than other commercial/chemical-laden detergents found at mass retailers; however, I was disappointed at the ingredients and the EWG ranking in this “natural” detergent since it comes from a company that prides itself on being natural and environmentally friendly.  Because of my concern over the use of benzisothiazolinone, methylisothiazolinone, and SLS, I will not be using Seventh Generation Free & Clear Laundry Detergent.

I received the Seventh Generation Free & Clear Laundry Detergent for free for the purpose of my review. Opinions are 100% my own.